What's Your Attitude About Feeling Bad?

Is it possible to limit the impact area of feeling bad in your life

It's been quite a while since I last wrote an essay. Not because nothing important has been happening — on the contrary, there are so many important events happening around me that it's been hard to find quiet time to sit & write down my thoughts. Now at last I've found myself in a relatively comfortable place to reflect on one of the topics. This will be a short one — I promise.

As the title suggests this essay is about your attitude towards feeling bad and how tweaking it might help you handle tough life situations better.

Feeling bad — in and of itself — isn't alterable for sure. We're all human after all, and hard times come for all of us — some extremely hard, some not. But what is alterable, and even more important, is to consciously think about and realize what your attitude toward feeling bad is. As most often - it's where the main problem lays.

This image shows the core idea: It's not the feeling bad itself that's the problem — it's your attitude toward feeling bad. Most of the time, this attitude makes things worse than they are. Shift that, and you can limit how much impact feeling bad has on you.

As i see it most of these cases appear because either a person haven't been exposed to enough painful and uncomfortable situations(having had a princess treatment their whole lives) or they've never reflected on these experiences. Some time you SHOULD arrive at a level of life where you realize: bad things will happen to you. You will feel bad for sure — but you shouldn't let these painful experiences define you in that specific moment. Because you are more than the bad experience and feeling you're having — you are much more and you have the ability to be ok with feeling bad.

To summarize: It's not the feeling bad itself that is the main issue — it's your attitude toward feeling bad. And if you can shift that, the feeling bad doesn't have to take over the whole space. You can limit its impact.