Bad Habits
How Bad Habits Can Be Detrimental To Your Life
TLDR: This is the first essay in my 30 day challenge. I'm using you - a person reading this - as an accountability buddy to try to commit to someting hard - to changing bad habits that i've accumulated up to this time. This is my way of trying to get back my borders, that got loosened up in many different ways.
There are thousands of different books, articles and talks about the nature of bad habits, how to identify and break them. I'm not trying to add some new findings to this big topic - just want to share my 2 cents about it. In this essay - i want to reflect on bad habits of mine, share my own perspective on what are the biggest struggles of breaking bad habits and using this platform i want to commit publicly(even though nobody might be reading it at the moment) to doing my best for next 30 days to break worst of these habits that have become part of my identity.
As i've noticed, there are bunch of different types of bad habits. Each one of them have different severity. Some might be detrimental to your life and some might be just a mildly annoying thing. I want to underline my personal experiences with severe bad habits. Severe in a sense, that not paying attention to them on time and letting them progress might easily cause catastrophic results in your life.
Most people have realisations when they observe the results of long running bad habits - and let me tell you it doesn't feel good. It feels like your whole world is breaking down.
And the worst part? - you can't change anything about it. It's already too late.
In public literature, this realisation moment is also known as "Wake Up Call". It feels like you suddenly understand what was the meaning behind the words: "If you continue doing it, it will break your life". You suddenly understand what the meaning of serious damage in long term means - as you are standing exactly at that point.
Some people are lucky enough to have this kind of a realisation, when it's not too late, when there is still a time to turn the ship around and survive. This means that light is stil present in your psyche, even though this light can be dimmed in certain circumstances in other ones - it shines bright. So don't let other people or outer forces to put it out.
Some of the worst habits of mine that fundamentally go against my core principles:
- Treating other reactively: One shouldn't treat others based on their instincts, weaknesses and reactiveness. You should take care of other people just like you do with yourself
- Being addicted to sudden dopamine rush: Be it smoking a cigarrete, doom scrolling, suddenly consuming bunch of social media posts or others, i'm too addicted to sudden dopamine rushes and it wires your whole psyche in a very non-health way
- Being too self centered: It has become quite a habit for me to only think about myself. You should consciously think about other people, what part they are playing in your life and what should a healthy dynamic between you and that person look like
These are the things that i want to focus on. Let's see what happens in next 30 days.
P.S. I'll be sharing every day updates to this point of change. Hope there is still a hope, hope i've not made non refundable mistake yet. Let god decide what's better for me